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Stepdad teaches his kid a lesson for offending his stepsister by not letting him go to his friend’s birthday party

The problem of parents and children has undoubtedly been topical since mankind has existed. Do you really think Cain would have taken Abel’s life if he hadn’t had some complexes – most likely because of a poorly developed relationship with his father?

And when he is also a stepfather, no matter how good the child’s relationship with him is, in any case there will be conflicts. And if another child from another marriage is involved, it’s even more certain. And it will take a lot of psychological maturity and wisdom from both parents to properly solve this problem without any harm.

The author of a popular post in the AITA Reddit community, which has already got almost 8.7,000 upvotes and more than 1.3,000 miscellaneous comments, faced such a problem. And, contrary to the typical value judgments of this community, here the original poster received some really wholesome advice.

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The original poster lives with his wife, 12-year-old son and 11-year-old daughter

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The PO therefore lives with his wife, 11-year-old daughter and 12-year-old son-in-law. The boy and the girl, according to the author of the message, get along well, but from time to time, like almost all children, they fight with each other and annoy each other in every possible way.

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PO’s stepson made a habit of sneaking into his stepsister’s room and grabbing her things

The OP’s stepson made a habit of sneaking into the girl’s room and taking things from her – like a T-shirt, a favorite pen, a teddy bear, etc. The OP has told him more than once that this behavior is unacceptable and next time he will be punished. The boy promised he wouldn’t do it again – but time passed and everything repeated itself.

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The OP imposed punishments, including making him do chores

As a result, the stepfather began to really punish the preteen. Especially by making him do chores: taking out the trash for an entire week, washing the car and mowing the lawn with his stepfather (which the boy especially didn’t like). For a moment, the son-in-law stopped upsetting the sister, and the OP decided that everything was fine.

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The day before his best friend’s birthday, the stepson stole the daughter’s diary from his room

But now, on the eve of his best friend’s birthday, to whose party OP’s son-in-law was, of course, invited and really wanted to go, he once again entered the room of OP’s daughter. OP and stole his diary. This time, the OP and his wife specifically called the two kids and decided to have an educational conversation.

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Parents agreed they need to be stricter now

The woman accepted that her son would be punished and suggested that he wash all the dishes in the house. The husband disagreed with her, arguing that it was not the first time the boy had misbehaved, so they had to be stricter.

True, the stepson, in justification, said that the girl annoyed and also sometimes deliberately exasperated him. The OP objected that in this case, she also receives a punishment, and that they are one family and should get along well.

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The boy shouted at his stepfather that it was his house, not the man’s

The father-in-law said that from now on, the boy is not allowed to enter his sister-in-law’s room without her permission. In response, the boy shouted that it was his house (and indeed when the OP and his wife got married, he and his daughter moved into the woman’s house), and that he would go where he wanted anytime he wants.

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As a result, the boy was punished even more – instead of partying with his best friend, he had to clean the whole house that night. Of course, the stepson was incredibly upset and the woman later told the OP that he was being too tough.

People in the comments were mostly supportive of the OP, although some suggested seeing a family psychologist

Certainly, the commentators overwhelmingly supported the PO, arguing that impudence and disobedience, of course, should be punished – although, of course, this man should consult a family psychologist in order to improve relations in his family.

In any case, the PO also received valuable parental advice based largely on the personal examples of the commentators, for example, that the punishment should match the offence. As if the son-in-law steals something, he must in return lose some of his belongings.

Of course, we are not family psychologists, but we encourage you to discuss this situation as well. It is likely that you yourself have been in the place of OP or his stepson, and then, of course, it will be very interesting to know how your similar story ended.